HAPPY EASTER


Just wanted to wish you a very happy Easter and a happy holidays.


May the season bring some much needed refreshing and revival to important situations in your life.


May everything that's been failing begin to work and new ideas begin to flow in your thought stream. When each and every one of your plans look like it's going to fail, May help arise where you weren't even expecting.


No more loss, No more stagnation, No more backwardness, and no more reproach.

God bless you. Have a nice Easter season and have fun.



P.S: Lol!... You didn't really think someone can unboil eggs do you? Well, maybe except Easter eggs and I don't know where to get them.

If you fell for the joke, Pls don't spoil the fun. Pass it on to your friends that would also like to "unboil" eggs. At least praying for them is also important. ;)



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LOL!... DO YOU BELIEVE IN DESTINY?

Do you believe in fate and destiny? 
You know, personally, I do and that’s why I think I might just have the answer to the biggest question hanging over the head of two of Nigeria’s biggest celebrities – Michael Collins aka Don Jazzy, CEO of the popular Mavins Records and Celebrity blogger, Banana lover and fashion (bags) Admirer; Linda Ikeji.


As a Nigerian who hates seeing someone, especially other Nigerians, battling one particular persisting problem year-in, year-out, I think it’s high time Don Jazzy and Linda Ikeji start thinking outside the box and start believing in destiny. The destiny that has kept them both single, despite all the money, fame and achievements and even all the ridicule and “I don’t care” attitude they’re forming.

There’s no need to join the numerous singles at the MFM’s “Power Must Change Hands” when you both have Twitter accounts and your DMs are working. Please, you Don Baba J, let it go down in the DM like that popular song before one small boy starts asking you “When will you discover Mongo Park”. Big Insult! No wonder you chased him throughout the whole video. Only God knows what happened behind the scenes.

Linda biko, this isn’t the time to form hard-to-get. Once the package from Don Jazzy drops in your DM, just quickly do what? Grab it. Don’t dull. We are expecting bloggers to come up with the hot news as soon as possible. 

 God bless... Please hand me my cup of Lipton and two cubes of sugar. Thanks.



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11 WRONG PLACES TO USE YOUR PHONE

Our phones have become a part of our everyday lives, especially in the era of smart phones. Using one’s smart phone has spelt misfortune and even death for some people as phone usage isn’t acceptable everywhere you are. Quickly, below are 11 wrong places to use your phone(s).


1. In A Religious Gathering
Whether it’s in the church or mosque, as long as a religious service is going on, using your phone is sure to distract you and probably someone else, close to you. If your body is twitching to use your phone, simply step out, knock yourself out and step back into the service.

2. During An Interview
Ever heard of people who were sent out of an interview process because they couldn’t just switch off their phones as instructed? It may sound bizarre but if you find yourself at an interview, with the sudden urge to draw out your phone (especially against instruction) don’t do it.

3. In The Airplane
These are the “Social Media Must See This” people. Some people would even go as far as fighting the flight attendants after persistently telling (begging) them to switch off their phones. They should threaten to throw them out without a refund.

4. At The Filling Station
The sign that has a phone picture with a red line across it isn’t just for decoration. You’re posing a potential risk to your life and the lives of other people at the filling station. Just switch off the network for the short (or long) period of time.

5. On A Date
Some ladies are too fond of this one. Yes, you don’t like the guy but you’re eating the food he paid for. At least don’t insult his personality by choosing your phone over him. And guys who do it too, it’s a big sign of disrespect.

6. At The Movies
A lot of people are guilty of this one. The hall is dark. When you take a picture, you camera flashes and there’s no escaping it being a source of distraction for people close to you. If you’re no longer interested in the movie, allow them watch theirs in peace.

7. During A Meeting
Many bosses take advantage of their position to put up this “No one can question me” attitude of using their phones. It is sign of irresponsibility. Dozing in the meeting is a more tolerable bad habit than using your phone.

8. At The Saloon
Hair stylists can relate to this. You used your phone throughout the whole time and you’re complaining the style isn’t exactly what you asked for. How will it be? Is the stylist a magician? OYO is your case. Abeg fly.

9. While Driving
A lot of people have died from this particular habit, so much doesn’t need to be said on this one. If you’re still text-driving, God help your soul and good luck!

10. While Walking On The Road
Until some people bump into a pole or someone else, they won’t remember that they’re on the road. Some even go as far walking into an oncoming vehicle. Death cases have also been recorded on text-walking habit.

11. Add yours
Feel free to add yours.

Good luck to our phone addict pals everywhere. God continue to help you guys.



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HAPPY NEW MARCH

Happy New Month People. How has the year been shaping up so far?

You know for some of us, we're still at the planning stage; while some of us have begun implementing our plans, and trying out something. For those who've started acting, carry on. Without action, there can't be achievements. For those who are still making plans, don't rush. Make well mapped our plans before proceeding to implementation but remember time waits for no one.


Blessings, Breakthroughs and the Courage to MARCH forward are what I wish for you this new month.

May every thing you'll need to progress be divinely supplied to you, as all your plans begin to take shape and become a reality.

As you MARCH forward, May every step you take bring you closer to the achievement of your goals this year.

Happy New Month.
Cheers!

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SPIRITUALITY VS REALITY

A conversation ensued between an older friend (late 40’s) and myself about some personal issues. These life issues were patterning to her and after the conversation, with the aid of research and internet scrambling, I was able to map out logical and strategic steps on how to go about issues like that. A week later, I presented my proposal to my friend and she said she had gone for prayers and the consultant… sorry, I mean the clergy had told her what to do. Well, that should even be better I thought but out of curiosity, I asked what the clergy advised. The answer was shocking… Fast and pray for twenty-one days. Finish? Really? You’re sure he didn’t add anything else?

My proposal would only take fourteen days from start to finish but she politely discarded it as she was bent on going spiritual which wasn’t even a bad thing, except… well, let me hold it. Now, that made me remember a question I raised in a bible study class about Kleptos (you know, Kleptomaniacs). 

So I said, for instance in western countries, a teen is kleptomaniac and the conclusion is that it’s a naturally condition and the teen needs to be taken to rehab for reorientation. So he/she is taken to rehab while in Africa, a teen is kleptomaniac and the conclusion is that a demon has possessed the teen. He/she needs to be taken to the mountain for intense deliverance session(s) and he’s carried off. Let’s assume it was indeed a demonic attack (since we are Africans). Is there something they did to the demon at the rehab (in the case of the western teen) that made it uncomfortable and leave the body of the host or are we just too spiritual minded in Africa that we forget that not everything is spiritual?

That innocently asked simple question turned the bible study class to a debate room for around half an hour. Africans over emphasize spirituality at the expense of reality. A girl isn’t married at thirty-five, she’s always at the front seat at the yearly MFM ‘Power Must Change Hands’ deliverance prayer yet her friends have stopped visiting her house because of how dirty it is and her dress sense is a throwback to the early 70’s. At least she’s not the guy that claims his father’s other wives are not allowing him get a job for four years and has refused to learn a skill or go into business. And just because he studied Physics or industrial chemistry, he’s patiently waiting for the day Shell or Chevron would come calling so in the meantime, he’s on the mountain observing a 40 days fasting and prayer session against some probably innocent women going about their daily petty trade.

You know, I’m not saying this spiritual technicalities and anomalies are non-existent since we are from the ‘dark’ continent where a lot activities go in places like trees, forests, rocks, walls and even in thin air but I’m just saying we would be saving ourselves a lot of time and energy if we gave room for logical reasoning. Over emphasizing on spirituality is what has made Africans (especially her women) slaves to spiritual figures like Imams, Clergies, Native doctors, Seers and so on. The effect of spirituality on the already permissible African mind oftentimes tends to mess with logical reasoning and after a 20mins BBM chat/debate with an African-American friend, he concluded with a very silly conclusion. 

The main reason why there are very few high-rise building in Africa like other places is because there’s a dominant horizontal pattern of reasoning; whereas, every other continent thinks vertically (I choose to disagree with that annoying assessment). We need to stop pitting Spirituality against Reality. If you want something, don’t just pray for it; work hard to get it. If you want good grades, don’t just pray; study. You need a job, pray but also submit your CVs, create connections and obtain professional certifications. You need money, start a business and pray God blesses it.

That is the way to align spirituality and reality rather than contrast them. Hope this makes some sense to an African who intends striking a balance between spirituality and reality. Have a nice week ahead.




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WHO'S THE WEAKER VESSEL EXACTLY?

Oftentimes while growing up, the male kid gets baffled by the ‘preferential treatment’ concept. It does seem too complex and complicated to wrap your brain around as a kid and sometimes, you (as a male) might feel slighted, cheated or even irritated at the way adults seem to handle issues that arise between you and a girl. The straw that might break the camel’s back for you might be the simple explanation (especially when you didn’t ask for one) that “Don’t you know females are weaker vessels?”
 
Now, let me paint a picture: Two JSS3 students were caught bullying a few other students in their class – a boy and a girl. They were set to be punished. The boy was made to scrub the floor of 10 classes and the girl made to scrub 5 classes. Of course, nobody raises any eyebrow since it was only normal for the “stronger vessel” to be strongly punished and the weaker one to be weakly punished. Right?

Scenario number two: A friend was on a Friday queue at an ATM a week ago, earpiece plugged, taking one step after the other with a great deal of patience and hope. Around half an hour later, he was fourth in line. Suddenly, a lady stood beside him and only by the movement of her good looking lips did he realize she was saying something.

“Sorry?” He said as he unplugged his earpiece.

“Please sir, I’m really really in a hurry. My kid is waiting for me in the car it’s really hot and sunny. Can I stay in your front please?”

"Hian!... stay in my front?... I’ve been standing here for God knows how long and just when I’m the fourth person on the queue, you just emerge from nowhere and stare at me with your duck like face and sickle cell voice. Can I stay in your front?... No, you can stay in my pants. Get the hell outta my face” my friend replied………. In his mind though; cos he actually allowed the lady withdraw before him. Now try to switch the genders and imagine the outcome of that scenario. Don’t make me laugh.

Men are supposed to be given the preferential treatment if you ask me. These supposedly weaker vessels are not weak at all. They are the queens in life’s chess game. Don’t ask me ‘how’ but if you play chess, compare the queen’s movement and ability to the king’s and tell me which one you’ll wish came in two. This gender is the best strategists around and let me site an instance.

If a car with a lady behind the wheel mistakenly hits another car and a guy comes down from the hit car, there’s a very minute “Oh! Thank God it’s a guy” sigh of relief the lady breathes compared to when a lady, especially one looking older and classier steps down. There are countries where crimes don’t carry the same amount of punishment for different genders. Imagine!

Upon all the cheating, some ladies would still want to leverage on their gender and assets (for those that have) to have their way in some situations. Brothers, I encourage you to cast away any form of hesitation and reluctance in serving them some serious reality checks. If any “weaker vessel” thinks the supposed weakness can serve some unreasonable leveraging purpose like stepping on a guy and instead of saying sorry like courtesy demands, you make eye contact and smile like an overfed sheep, you need some proper reorientation.

Weaker vessels should in no way mean dumber vessels. Females aren’t even as weak as depicted in some scenarios but oh well, nature has endowed you guys with the power to cause an unexplainable underestimation on the opposite sex. Just enjoy it responsibly. Cheers.



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ON THE TRAIL OF THE NATIONAL LASHING

One of the things Nigerians are really good at is ‘response’. We always have a response for everything. Good or bad, acceptable or not, we feel a deep urge to reply, especially when our image or ego is been stroked. I’ll come back to why I started this article with this.
For those who aren’t following proceedings on the US Presidential election campaigns, you might want to do that first so you’ll really relate to what you’re reading – especially if you wish to give a response or drop a comment. (No sarcasm). More so, the closer the elections get, the hotter and more interesting proceedings get. I wouldn’t want to assume or make you feel you’re reading a political article – for the large bunch of those who are fed up of anything politics, including myself.

A few days back, one of the republican contestants by the name DT gave Africans; especially Nigerians some few word lashings and as expected (you know Nigeria is the highest Social Media user in Africa), people jumped on Social Media to give him a ‘response’. Some said the way he’s running his mouth, he would never win. Some cursed him for some of the ‘idiotic’ words he said. Some said he would only end making more US enemies if he continued using his mouth before his brain. I was just reading comments and smiling.

What did DT say? I’m not going to quote but part of or similar to what he said included chasing all Nigerians out of the US should he eventually become the US president. He also said that Africans, especially Nigerians are usurping jobs meant for honest, hardworking Americans and Nigerians need to be sent out to work on their country. Yes, he also said that politicians in Nigeria are some the most corrupt ones and they rob the citizens blind, after which they head over to the US to spend the cash meant for the public.

The part that got me laughing was DT saying Nigeria needs to be recolonized for another hundred years, more preferably by the US because we know nothing about self-governance and looking at the way things are in Nigeria, we learnt absolutely nothing from the British. What the heck?!!! He said other things o, but relaying it gives me more to think about than write about. Year in year out, independence is celebrated (we already know Africans love celebration) nothing is achieved throughout the cycle until it’s time for another celebration.

Honestly, I don’t even know how many years independence would be celebrated this October cos I’ve totally lost interest in the thing itself. After listening to what DT said and reading Nigerians reaction on Social Media, I can just conclude that on the trail of that national bashing, insulting the man may be the correct response, but can never be the justified response (for those who know the difference) Where are we, the popularly acclaimed giant of Africa when some fast developing African countries are mentioned?

Rather than insult anyone for feeding us the hard truth, we would do better looking inwards, taking the reality check and working on our governance system. How long would Nigeria be tagged “The place where nothing ever works”? When would the blindfold of corruption be removed and we would see how far behind we are, compared to other countries? How long would we continue to use the deteriorating state of the economy to kill the spark in bright and brilliant young minds?

Let me just go and finish my cup of Lipton since I don’t even know if poor internet would allow me publish this post. My laptop battery is even about going off since the small fuel in my generator is on tight budget and we’ve not had light for three days straight. “Nigeria we hail thee…”



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5 FUNNY REASONS FOR BREAKUPS


We all know that breakups are not the best and are only resorted to, when all other options doesn’t work. When a relationship doesn’t work out at first, no one advices breakup rather, it’s advised one puts in more effort. When break-ups happen, the bottom reason is because things are falling apart and the center can’t hold.


Below are five funny but real reasons why breakups have happened. It may sound untrue but just try to wrap your brain around it because this isn’t fictional but true life cases.


Dressing: Two years ago, a couple already engaged decided to dissolve their relationship and part ways. Of course the question “Why?” would pop up at some point and the girl said “nothing” but the guy had a different answer. He said he couldn’t put up with the girl’s dressing anymore. Her dresses were too exposing. She was either in a micro mini skirt, a bum short, skin tight dresses or cleavage revealing dresses. The girl refused to change on the grounds that her parents are not blind. Go on and date your parents. Smart girl.

Accent: This one is funny and common too. Most girls are guilty of this one. They travel to South Africa for a month and come with British accent. The guy in this case from what was heard, was having none of his girl’s overly pronounced accent. Na she go first travel out? Heard the girl went for her masters in UK for just a year, came back and was scattering everywhere with her British accent. The guy probably got fed up or disgraced or both and just had to call it off. Poor accented girl.

Ambition: When one of the parties in a relationship is overly ambitious, it might go either ways with the other party. In this case, the guy broke up with the girl just because she was overly ambitious. She and the guy started dating during her Youth Service. Later, she got one masters, went and got the second one, got her PhD, all through then, she was running a makeup business on one side and rendering event planning services on the other. She and the guy dated for eight years but according to the guy, on evaluation, she wasn’t the kind of person he wanted to settle down with. She won’t just have ‘The time’.

Religiousness: Being a pastor isn’t even a bad thing. Do you know how many girls want to get married to a pastor? Well, this made the list since a couple of months back; a girl brokeup with her fiancé (not boyfriend) with whom she spent three good years just because he was too religious. I guess she was only being satisfied spiritually and you know girls of nowadays have more needs than just spiritual. She did her evaluation and decided she would rather date a non-religious or less-religious person who wouldn’t follow strict religious rules and satisfy other aspects. Good luck to her.

Wandering Eyes: Now this made me laugh. A girl recently broke up with her man after four years and the reason is simple and straightforward – He has wandering eyes. Seriously? After four years?... Maybe he suddenly developed it or something; but in truth, almost all guys have wandering eyes. You’re sitting in a restaurant with your babe and a sensually dressed lady walks past your table. It’s only human to see and look because sight is the nature of men. You having a Ferrari does not mean you can’t look at a Bugatti. It’s not cheating until you decide to take the Bugatti for a test drive behind the Ferrari.
So that’s it. Have you seen or heard some weird and funny reasons for breakups, please share them with us in the comment section below.
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WELCOME TO MMT REJUVENATED


THE REJUVENATION
*Enters Mature Minds Talk Elite Room*

*Coughs (x9)*

*Dusts cobwebs*

*Sweeps and dusts the chairs*

*7 hours later, the room is put back in order*

“Mic check 1,2… Mic check 1,2”


Ehemm… Hello everyone, I know no one would probably get to read this but if you do get to, how are you and how long has it been eh?
How has life been treating you? Hope you’re okay?

Sorry, I’ve abandoned MMT Elite Room. The once very lively space, where we said it just the way it is. Thanks to all those who kept asking how far with MMT. Asking if I’ve sold it or it has gone on total lockdown. Apologies to you guys, I’ve just been lazy and busy. Lazy in that, it takes less than an hour to make a post and the spare time I’ve had has been channelled towards something else; my business especially. That’s why I said I’ve been busy. Running my online service firm www.blogoxygen.com has taken more time than I anticipated at the beginning and I’ve always had it in mind to resurrect Mature Minds Talk and do a kind of run-together thing but I just never got around to it. I deserved some sticks.

Okay, after all the excuses and whatever whatever, MMT was and is still about her readers. Throughout the time I was away, my mind was always with you guys, praying and wishing life treats you good and offers you the best. Hope my wishes came to pass?
If you’re reading this, I’ll like to welcome you back to Mature Minds Talk discussion room – The Rejuvenation. Posts would be coming in, at least twice weekly for now and that’s a promise that won’t be broken. While I was away, I’ve learnt a lot in Content Management System (CMS) and I intend implementing some things I’ve done on other blogs as paid service on MMT as well. Welcome back once again.

If you want to know what we’ve been up to and how you can possibly benefit from it, send a mail with any subject and any content to contact@blogoxygen.com cos that’s our new brainchild. Born from the encouragements of some MMT Readers who we might never have back in here, let alone say “Thank you”.

Thanks for coming back because MMT is nothing without you guys. God will bless you and make 2016 a prosperous year for you and your family. This is Mature Minds Talk – The Rejuvenation. Check out our “About Page” and remember to check in this discussion regularly as we attempt to take things a step higher than what it used to be. Thank you.
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SHE'S NOT A GOLD DIGGER


Yes… yes, yes. It a very well-known fact that there are a lot of gold, diamond, silver, even bronze diggers out there, in here, everywhere; girls nowadays would ridiculously dig anything ‘dig-able’ and you really don’t want to imagine the kind of tools they dig with. Miners have got nothing on them.

Gone were the days when they dug with digger and shovel. Nope!... technology has made the tools mechanized so they can literally dig you from far, middle or close range.
A bro once updated his BBM personal message and I quote:

“Whenever she uses that sad smiley as pm, brothers better not ask what’s wrong cos next thing, you fit dey open GTB app for your phone.” Can we call that ‘smiley-digging’?

Now to the main koko of the post, please regardless of your experience(s) with the female folk, they are not all gold diggers (abi your mum gold dug your popsy?). That girl you’re casting one kind side eye on may not even be a gold digger.
These points doesn’t qualify your spouse as a GD. Understood?

> She asks how much your salary is: Believe me, not every lady asks this with a mischievous intention. Some only ask in a bid to help you become a better financial manager. Depending on how long you’ve been together, she probably have seen how you manage your cash and knows she can either help you handle it better or give you good management ideas. It’s a sign she sees a future with you.

> She asks you to buy this or that: That’s the way most ladies see their men, especially ladies who haven’t been independent since a young age. These ones tend to see a daddy figure in their men. Yes, she might have a million naira in her account and she’s still asking for 30k for shopping or something. She only wants it to be a “He-bought-it-for-me” item. Not necessarily GD.

> She asks you to settle her bills: Most times, it’s her internet sub. It might be something bigger like her rent or so. She only wants to enjoy your financial strength and capabilities. Not necessarily gold digging you but if she asks you consecutively, errr… I don’t know about that one sha. But settling your spouse’s bills ‘at times’ isn’t necessarily a GD antic. If you’ve got the capability for it; why not?

> She asks for a material possession: “Borrow me your laptop” “Can I borrow your iPad?” They never use the word “Give”. Once they start ‘borrowing’ it, they want to have it. It’s not necessarily GD if she gets some things for herself and you too – once in a while and not overly dependent or borrowing but if she has never gotten you anything and all she hasn’t borrowed are the keys to your car and apartment, my brother, keep those well.

> She asks for your bank details: This one is very technical. I would strongly disagree with sharing bank details (banking app passwords, ATM pins, Security questions, etc) with someone you’re courting/dating – my own view. You see, when you get married, even if she wants the finger print, it’s all hers. But believe me, situations may occur and she asks, doesn’t mean she’s a GD. You must be very meticulous and know the kind of person you’re dealing with. Is she somebody you can disclose info like that to, or you’ll just find an excuse till you can probably handle the situation from your end. Your relationship; Your decision.


Let’s stop at that five for now and a word for the brothers is: Don’t let past experiences put you in a corner where your spouse will keep feeling offended any time financial issues rise between you two.


Disclaimer: Those five points are sincerely relative and the author has not said they should be ignored as gold digging red flags. Instead, a high level of meticulousness, ability to study who you claim to be in a relationship with and accurately sharp use of your common sense is required in following the content or points above.

Thank you.




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