5 WAYS TO DEAL WITH AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP
Emotionally abusive
relationships. You meet someone who you think is absolutely fantabulous. You
think they are going to be the one. After a few months of that "new couple
bliss," the tables start to turn. Your best suddenly becomes not good
enough. Yeah sure, I've been there. When problems came up, I wanted to fix them
but they were outside of your control. I wanted to make eveything better for
the person who ultimately, was doing me more harm than good, but I refused to
accept it.
The truth? So so many women
who are in similar situations aren't the real reason behind the issues. You and
I, we aren't the catalyst that can change these abusers for the better. More
truth? Getting out is necessary. It may not be easy. It may not be what your
heart wants. But it has to happen.
Looking back, I wish I had
someone to help me during the hardest times. That's why I present you with 5
ways to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship:
1. Accept it. This is
probably the hardest part. As much as you want to make everything hunky dory
for you and your partner -- some things just aren't under your control.
Accepting it is the first step to moving forward in your life. Recognize that
it won't be easy. That's OK. Moving on from any relationship, emotionally
abusive or not, is never simple.
2. Find comfort in friends.
Your closest friends will be there for you to pick you up when you're down. In
my experience, your friends haven't been fans of your emotionally abusive
partner for a while now. It may be hard to admit you finally see what they've
been saying for the last few months, but once you do -- you'll feel a weight
lifted. A good friend just wants you to be okay. At this point in time, it's
not about who is right or wrong. It's about romantic comedies, ordering
takeout, and sleepovers -- no matter how old you are.
3. Distractions are
critical. Now is as good a time as any to pick up a new hobby. When you're in a
relationship, you dedicate a whole chunk of your personal time to another
person. With those time slots suddenly open, your calendar is wide open. Pick
up a few extra classes at your gym, look into a local photography club, check
out the running store down the block. Allow yourself to explore new things.
4. Let out your feelings.
It's okay not to be okay. I think it's safe to say that so so many women want
to stay strong and put on a good face for family and friends around them.If you
hold in your true feelings, you're never going to allow yourself to grieve the
end of something that meant a lot to you. You're allowed. I promise.
5. Cut the loose ends.
Friends with friends of his on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram,
Twitter, and the like? Those constant reminders of someone who did you harm are
100 percent unnecessary, but it's hard to cut the chord. If you wouldn't be
friends with them outside of the relationship, then cut the chord. Whether that
be "unfriending" them completely or just blocking them from your News
feed -- it will help you to move on.
Have you ever been in an
emotionally abusive relationship?... Drop your comments.
Mature Minds Talk.
Yes, I rowed this boat before and what made it kinda hard to let go was that after being single for a long while, dude came along and I though he was the one. The first one month was fine then I noticed he lied to me initially, as I was busy with project I wasn't really fazed. I noticed I was the one always doing the checking up, all of a sudden he had different excuses, in order not to appear clingy I reduced the rate I called, I think he noticed at that point. Emotional abuse is even worse than the physical abuse. It wasn't easy but hey I let go and am enjoying every moment of this single life
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