LOVE EXPIRATION
There
comes a time when two people have to realize that the expiration date between
them is now progressively upon them. When one has to look back and assess the
entire relationship and truly analyze if what one has between them is really
real or worth it anymore. Is one living a lie? Is that magic really over and is
there absolutely no hope of rekindling the relationship? Could it be that one
has finally realized that they are never on the same page with she/he about
anything anymore?
One might
be saying and wanting one thing while the other may be desiring something totally
different? Sometimes couples find or think that it is simply easier to agree to
disagree or go down the infamous silent treatment route. Living a mundane life
like this with someone is sure to have a stifling effect on one's spirits. Many
fail to realize that people simply grow apart. This is the point where it is
vital to take a second look at your relationship and stop ignoring the bad or
what is simply not good or working anymore regarding the two of you. This is
something we often do in relationships and wonder how they got here. How did one
get to this no man’s land of total disconnect where each day one is left
feeling like you are just going through the motions, almost feeling like one is
not really living or being one’s full self or potential. It’s like being in a
situation that is no longer right, like living in a monotonous hell or emotional
prison. It creeps up on you like some sort of depression or frustration that
you cannot seem to put into words. This is where you have to ask yourself a few
more questions:
*What
exactly is holding or keeping the both of you together?
*Is it
the love for each other, family and finances that's keeping you there or is it
simply a force of habit or the creature of comfort?
*Could it
be that one is afraid to exist and not coexist?
*Do you
feel that the glue that held you both together is unraveling at lightning
speed?
*Do you
feel that there was always something your partner was holding back and kept
him/her from truly being “in” the relationship you deserve or vice versa?
It’s
important to ask oneself these questions when such feelings are racing through
one’s mind on a day to day basis. Life is too short to live in this manner. One
owes it to oneself and one’s mate to be the best that they can be and demand
that it be reciprocated. Perhaps things are not as bad as one might believe.
Perhaps it is just a matter of sorting through all those misunderstandings and
believing in the value of the relationship by first figuring out where one
first went wrong. Like putting on the rose colored glasses for the betterment
of your love investment, like revaluating as well as working hard to rebuild one’s
relationship. If one feels that they have done all there is to mentally and
physically do, then it’s time to recognize that it is imperative one loves
themselves and their significant other enough to know when it’s time to let go.
It does not mean that we are a failure or that we failed one another. Sometimes
we have to admit that it truly does happen to the best of us. Don’t allow guilt
to stagnate the long overdue decision. Love one another enough to recognize
one’s love expiration date. And the old saying still remains "the faster, the better". Not sitting on your relationship's rotten bench would save you a lot of mental and emotional stress, time to move on, and the unnecessary thralldom some tends to fix themselves into.
You and your spouse should love yourselves enough to know if/when your expiration date is upon you both.
Mature Minds
Talk.
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